5 ways to face the shits in your life

 

Yes, Shit does happen in life. I have in one right now and I can say it sort of allow me to slow my life right now and think about all the nooks and crannies which I have been through this recent years.

Truth is I wasn’t growing in the way I want in life and I have been questioning the universe and god if this is the right path for me. Am I on the right path? Am I in the right way? Lost? I thought I wasn’t but the truth is I have been lost this 2 years plus. All the way up till now. It has finally snowballed into a big ball of shit right now.

Perhaps something needs to end in order for Universe to sort some backend stuff in their office. For now, I finally found my peace, which has been lost for almost 2 years. So, I really want to share my techniques with you guys if you are in the same situation as me right now.

  1. Question yourself

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Go to a place you like and ask. Preferably somewhere with no people. Go deep into your heart and ask yourself wtf u want in life. Answer your own questions. Nobody can answer for you. You need to figure out yourself and be super honest about your own truth. Stop lying. Stop finding excuses. When you finally found the answer to your question. Trust me, a kind of acceptance will be settled into your chaotic heart and mind.

2. Manifest about what you want and trust in the Universe

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Go ahead. Try it. It’s free. It’s not a self-help book for you to throw your money into it. I ain going to tell you how to do. Go to youtube and search for it. I have tried it over and over in my life cause it really works. I have seen miracles manifesting in my life through using the lesson from Law of Universe. Every time shit happens, always believe you are meant to be put in that spot for greater things to come into your life. Yes, it might be too dark to see it at the moment but trust in it.

3. Give thanks to everything in your life

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The moment when these words hit you in the eyes, you are able to see and understand what am I typing and trying to convey to you. This is a gift of education. Be grateful about it. The moment you switch on your laptop with a click or a button on your phone, you have the equipment to be able to communicate with your friends, relatives and partner. Be grateful that you are born in the right era to enjoy the technologies you are having right now. Give thanks and feel your feeling lifted up for that moment.

4. Download a playlist of soothing songs and motivational podcasts

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It’s okay to feel shitty even after doing the first 3 tips as mentioned. So make a playlist of soothing songs to fade yourself into it or listen to motivational podcasts from people such as Gary Vee, Tim Ferriss and Simon Sinek. These guys are fabulous and able to sorta help you feel a bit better in this shitty world. One of my favourites is this. Surround yourself with positivity is the first step to everything. Trust me. You will feel a lot better after listening to them.

5. Subscribe to motivational video on Youtube 

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I never did in the past. So I started to subscribe to videos which gave me a glimpse of hope in the current shit I am in right now. It helps a lot. Anytime the creator created a new video, it’s like another pill for my soul and a trigger for me to try again one more time.

There is this saying from Haruki Murakami.

“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”

Let’s face the rainbow at the end of the storm together.

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3 Reasons on why Singaporeans love to call the Police

I am shocked. Like really shocked at what I have been seeing on Facebook recently.

Too many Singaporeans are calling the Polices for any slightest shit that they saw on Facebook , which they think that it might hurt our county.

Anything that doesn’t seems right or does not align to my own personal value deserve a call to the Police station. What?

I have a list too.

  1. Mansplanning
  2. Man Spreading
  3. Bible Thumpers
  4. Fervently Religious People
  5. Grumpy and rude old people
  6. The list can go and go

Should I call the police? Nope right?

But why Singaporean love to call the Police?

  1. Upbringing

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I myself grow up in a complain friendly environment. Both of my parents love to complain about almost everything, from my School Teachers and to the friends I was making at school. Fortunately, I am the opposite version of my parents. I have a live and let go mindset. But for most people, they are unfortunately a copy and paste version of their parents. Probably they grew up seeing how much power that their parents have when they are complaining to the school teacher or maybe to the Police station.

2. Education 

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The best thing about Singapore Education is how we are taught to ignore the differences of races. Even if a kid was being bully by another kid at school, it is definitely not about the color of their skin and not the religion he believed in. It was always about other factors. So when anything that will stir up racial disharmony shit in Singapore, Singaporeans will pounce on the person and tear him or her apart. For example, the issue on the Ah Boys To Men Casting Saga definitely brought out certain issues that most Chinese Singaporeans refused to admit. We are the advantageous group and we need to see how other groups of people are able to receive the fair treatment that we are receiving on a daily basic. But someone was butthurt by the issue and decided to call the Police. So now, even a rant on Facebook is a police case? Whut? Can’t a person rant? He was just saying his own personal view. You don’t like it, you can just scroll down on Facebook.

     3. Comfort Zonist

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A name I come up for the type of people who refuse to step out of their comfort zone. But I won’t blame them as this is what they want in life. The problem is that they want everyone to stay in the same zone as them. But as the world moves on, the rules will change along the way. Whether you like it or not, you need to know not everyone is going to play by the same rules as you. This is part and parcel of life. The recent pink dot saga is one of the many examples. It is just a banner. There is no gay agenda, no targeting at naive kids and definitely not trying to turn all Singaporean males into gay. Trust me, there are plenty of heterosexual males to go around. All are willing to participate in the procreation of the next Singapore generation. If you hate pinkdot, you can lock yourself at home and make a call to the Police station. Happy calling! =)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

3 reasons on why Same Sex Marriage is wrong.

 

"Australia is falling further and further behind," he said. "Australian legislators who refuse to allow marriage equality to pass by having a free vote in parliament are bringing ever more shame on our nation."Croome also said Taiwan's court decision should be a comfort to social conservatives that marriage equality is not a "radical" reform."Taiwan is traditionally a socially conservative society so its movement toward marriage equality should reassure social conservatives in Australia that the reform is not a radical one."Director of The Equality Campaign, Tiernan Brady, said the ruling laid out a clear path for Taiwan to "simply legislate" – and said the same should happen in Australia."Poll after poll shows that the people of both Taiwan and Australia support marriage equality for their lesbian and gay family members and friends, neighbours and work colleagues."

First of all, I want to congratulate Taiwan for taking the first step in legalizing same sex marriage.

It is a great news to show that Asia is actually forward thinking and able to place love above hate.

However, there will definitely be a bunch of people coming up of various reasons to say why it’s wrong.

  1. Using God again 

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I used to be in the Church, belting out church songs and totally a devoted bible lover. But I was too tired of all the fear they try to conjure out from the book.  Eventually, I went back to Buddhism, the religion of peace and zen. But come to think of it, Isn’t Jesus all about love? Why are you guys so obsess about the old testament? If you guys want to talk about the fiery destruction of a sin-sick world. You are the first sinner to received the fire bolt.

The true sin of the Sodomites as described in the Bible has nothing to do with same-sex acts per se. Rather, the ancient Sodomites were punished by God for far greater sins: for attempted gang rape, for mob violence, and for turning their backs on strangers and the needy who were in their midst. In other words, the real sin of Sodom was radical inhospitality. And, ironically, it is often anti-gay Christians who are most guilty of this sin today.

By Rev. Patrick S. Cheng, Ph.D.

But apparently most of the followers only focus on the “sex”. Gay sex is about consent. Rape isn’t. That’s why they were punished. If God is looking, all the dumbass rapists in Indian have already gotten destruct by the fire sent from above right??

2. Keep quiet and dun talk about it

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I can assured you there are still plenty of straight people in this world. And yes, I love your point about overpopulation. We are facing it right now. That’s explain the climate change you are seeing on the News everyday. Trust me, it actually will not work. The problem is that even homosexuals want to start their own family as well. Haha! The arrival of baby coming into a loving family is certainly something we can all celebrate together. But my dear, nobody like to be quiet about it.  We want the same things as you have too. A loving partner, a house, hospital visiting rights and maybe kids. By wanting all of that, we are unable to love each other like how you find a prostitute behind your wife. We want the whole world to know that we are in love. It’s the most basic human need and want.

3. Politics

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To be honest, it’s really the people of Taiwan who bring forward the change you have seen today. They have been advocating for more than 30 years. The government is finally listening. So now, you are using numbers and figure to make your stand on this point. You know news is still just a news. The result has been confirmed. Gay are able to bring their love one to ROM and register their marriage together after 2 years. Why legalize? It’s not solely for legal sex only. It’s a legal protection to all the people who have stayed together for 60 plus years and you aren’t seen as a family member because of some stupid rule that same sex aren’t able to get marry. It’s a protection to all the children that they have together. Both should have the legal rights to their own children. In case one partner isn’t around, he or she has the parental right to take care of them.

That’s all.

Congratulations! Taiwan!

Why am I ditching Daniel Wellington Watch?

 

Let me say something right here.

I was a big fan of the brand and was attracted to its clean simplicity design when it was first launched in  2011. So I bought it asap once I graduated 3 years ago from my University.

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This is the watch that I bought. A solid beautiful Sheffield design.

Fast forward 2.5 years later, the brand was getting under my nerve. They are too much counterfeit products in the market and they looked and felt almost the same as the real one.

DW has changed from a lifestyle brand to a sales oriented management. It’s good to be sales driven. But it is actually diluting its own brand by not having a strong stance on its product. Anyone can sell. It became a pasam malam brand.

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A lot of watch retailers are carrying DW watches in their shop with at a price of $200 plus. Qoo10 Singapore (E-commerce website) is selling it for SG49.99 for a piece. Apparently, China is crushing DW quite badly with its warehouse direct sales and nobody in DW actually gives a damn. So, why would I buy a simple design dress watch that is around $200 plus? I can get it for $50 a piece. Nope, I will choose to back out from this brand.

This time round, it was Solvil Et Titus which caught my eyes.

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  • – 3-hand automatic movement
  • – Stainless steel case with dark brown oily Leather strap
  • – Blue sunray dial with applied silver color index
  • – Skeleton design at 6 o’clock
  • – Hardened convex crystal
  • – 30M water resistant

I was captured by the design at first before settling down to my first Automatic watch.

Let me end this with a beautiful paragraph I saw on Watch U Seek Forum.

I never understood the allure of mechanical watches. They are so expensive, antiquated, and unnecessary. But they tick. They have a heartbeat. They have weight. My life is spent in front of a computer screen handheld or desktop and the beauty of a handcrafted machine on my wrist is a perfect counterbalance.

~boulderlaw

 

Growing old is a pain in the ass for Singaporean “Working class” Elderly

Let’s start by going all the way back to the 60s.

For this post, I will use two 60 years old males as an example of the income gap in Singapore and how it has spiraled down to our current situation.

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I will use Mr Wooden Spoon and Mr Silver Spoon as an example right here.

Let’s talk about Mr Wooden spoon first. His dad was a blue-collar worker in the 60s, which was enough to feed a family of 6-8 people.

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Example of a Factory Worker in a Paper Factory

To Wooden’s dad, it’s more than enough if his children has clothes to wear, food to eat and a school to attend. When Wooden reached 7 years old, his dad enrolled him into a Chinese-stream school.

In education, for example, the government did not attempt to regulate and support the number of Chinese schools and, at the same time, encourage the growth of English-stream schools. The Chinese-educated became an under-privileged group; they had no opportunities for tertiary education nor could they hope to be employed in the civil service.

~The Development of Education in Singapore Since 1965

 

There was the first split in between the “Elite” class and the “working” class of Singapore.

Example of a Chinese-Stream School in the 60s as shown below.

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Let’s talk about Mr Silver Spoon. His dad was a humble lawyer who was able to afford a good house for his Family. He was one of the minority in his era to understand the importance of Education and started to save up a sum of Money for his Son University’s fees.

Example of a lawyer’s job in the 60s.

Much of my litigation work in Singapore then was concerned with moneylenders’ actions, property disputes (especially rent-controlled disputes) and debt collection. We were paid adequately but not handsomely and, in my case, I was given a fixed bonus of one month every year. However, the cost of living was very low, and a bit of frugality would allow a young lawyer to buy even a small house in the best district in Singapore.

~Reflections of a Former Practitioner

When Silver reached 7 years old, his dad enrolled him into a English-stream school.

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Trafalgar English School

When Mr Wooden reached 16 years old, he decided to drop out of school to work instead as tertiary education need a good command of English to enroll in. Mr Silver on the other hand has successfully attained a place in National Junior College, the first specialized co-educational government school established in independent Singapore for top pre-university students.

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There is the second split of differences for Singapore. One has succumbed to the fate of “working class” and the other was destined to climb even further up onto the “elite” class ladder.

Fast forward to a few years later, Mr Wooden is a technician who lived from paycheck to paycheck while Mr Silver is a lawyer who understood the theory of Investment.

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Right now, both men are in their 60s. Mr Silver is able to retire comfortably in a few years time while Mr Wooden has his financial stress of not having enough to live a basic minimal life and might need to work till to his 80s.

Hopefully Singapore government will do something about this impending issue. Else I will be planning my own retirement at Malaysia with my partner.

A response to Ms Melinda on gay kissing in Singapore.

To be honest, I am not a big fan of PDA.

Be it heterosexual or homosexual, it’s just simply awkward to see 2 tongues waging in front of me as shown below.

I am not a big fan of Stomp by the way. That’s what google smacked into my face when I typed “Kissing in MRT”.

What you can do is to just look elsewhere or try to squeeze into another place where you could not see saliva drooling everywhere on the floor.

I respect everyone’s rights, but this is Simply Disgusting in a public space. ~Melinda

At least, we are on the same page right here. Ms Melinda. =)

What if my children saw this and asked “Mummy, why are the two men kissing?” Would I have to answer “It’s the same as normal love and marriage. The only difference is that one man opens his buttocks for the other man to put his private part inside but in the end, no babies come out. They only get AIDS”?!

~Melinda

I mean I will ask if I am a kid. I did ask my Mum when I was a 7 years old kid. That memory is still vivid in my brain, especially that school girl sitting on a man’s lap in a MRT. My mum just asked me to shut up! It’s like what all Asian parents do anyway. You can just tell your kid to shut up! No need to explain too much. They will understand when the time is right. That’s how I grow up too.

But the way of your reasoning to your kid was extremely repulsive. Let me put it in this way.

7 years old Kid,” Mummy! Why are the man and woman kissing over there?”

You,”It’s normal. That’s how a man and woman make love. The man sticks his penis into the woman’s vagina. In the end, baby drop out from there.”

I will be horrified if I am that 7 years old kid. It’s too much explanation and information of the human sexual organs. I think we can use a better method to explain the meaning of PDA instead of trying to sex up an explanation to a kid. Right? Woman?

Most people in SG already know they exist but would prefer that they just go back inside the closet and stop seeking attention.

~Melinda

There you go again. We should ask all the people in the train to stop kissing cause they are all seeking attention from the public. That I agreed with you. We should follow Ms Josephine Teo’s advise to kiss and have sex in a small space. Closet is a perfect place to fuck each other brain out. =D

Some of them are not contented with Pink Dot and intimacy in private. Instead, they want to flaunt their gayness in public and ‘confront’ normal heterosexual couples until they accept them as normal and see them as equally ‘married’.

~Melinda

May I know what do you mean by confront? For what I know, the definition of confront is to “come face to face with (someone) with hostile or argumentative intent”. Let me tell you, it’s always the heterosexual people “confronting” the homosexual people instead. Have you been reading news recently?

There you see. A lot of people are on your side. No worries, you can join them and wave the cards high into the air. =)

For many of us, life is not just about fulfilling sexual fetishes that are falsely attributed to genetics.

~ Melinda

Let’s just put it in this way. What if this world you are living in is not a heterosexual society by nature? Someone is asking you to enjoy pussy instead of a proper dick in your vagina? How would you feel? Having a dick sticking into your vagina feel more right than a finger right? You will definitely agree with me on that. It’s the same for the gay community.  Having the same sexual organs with their partner feel more comfortable for them. It’s not just a sexual fetish. A human has a right to choose what go in and what come out of their private part. Nobody got a right to stop you or force you to try something you doesn’t feel comfortable with your own body. Do you understand?

I hope you do.

Delicious Deutsch Skillet Pancake @ d’Good Cafe

My gf has just found out that Mr Chew Chong Meng, one of my favorite local celebrity has set up a cafe business in Singapore recently.  d’Good Cafe has been operating for a few years in Singapore. We decided to head down to the Holland Village branch as we want a cozy area to chill and relax.

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My gf ordered a Green Tea Cream Frappe while I ordered a cup of Maple Seasalt Latte. The Green Tea Frappe was sweet to a certain extent, while the Seasalt Latte was simply quite salty to a certain extent.

To be honest, we were super full from our buffet lunch. Unfortunately,  the smell of the pancake from the other table was wafting to our table.

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After much persuasion to the reluctant bloated gf, she finally gave in to my incessant whining about us sharing a pan of pancake. Yay! We both decided on the same Strawberry berries flavor.

 
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Oozing in Strawberries, cherries and Vanilla Ice-cream

I was shocked by the size of the pan. I was expecting it to be a dainty looking size but it was the size of your Mother’s saucepan. Fresh and hot from the oven, the staffs were nice enough to place the pan on a serving tray for easy transportation from the counter to the table.

We were looking at it with heart shapes forming around the corner of our eyes until we realized that the Ice cream is melting at the side. One bite of it was simply spellbinding. There was a hint of sour in the strawberries  and a bloom of sweetness developed soon right after that slight tinge of piquant flavor. Its taste was as good as it looks!

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We will definitely go back soon!