Daily Musing

Enjoy loving the process of finding the right hole for your “Screw-up”

Yes, you screw up.

Big or small, I don’t really care.

The issue here right now is that you screw it up.

And sometimes, it’s a wonderful thing that you screw it up. Or maybe, life screw you up.

You know what? This might be something that twists you open from your current shit hole and pushes you into the direction that you deserve to be.

A lot of people are comfortable. In the own zone. Complaining, sulking and bitching in their same own zone. They are scared to screw it up.

So you know what? They allowed themselves to screw in the same old hole and let themselves rust into oblivious.

By the time they realized it, their screw kinda stuck and it won’t bulge out from the hole.

But for you, cause you have screwed it up. You know which part needs fixing, you know which kind of position you need to place yourself in order to suceed. You know which part of yourself need some polishing and sharpening. You are ready for the next screw up in life and aren’t scared of it anymore.

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Let me tell you. People like a loose screw story. Nobody likes to hear a firm bolt and nut story such as how you were born in a nice hospital, gotten straight A in school, graduated from some posh University and taken some parents’ money and set up your own company. You know what? That story sucks and Hollywood ain buying that kinda story that makes people yawn. That’s no potential in the story. Nothing to make people sit up on their chair and cheer for you. Nothing to make people wanting to be there in the scene to celebrate your victory. Nothing. Just a plain smooth screw story.

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It’s always in the fixing. The journey of finding the right hole or creating your own hole to sit yourself in it. So you know what, being screw up sucks big time. But it might be the greatest story you will ever tell to the world.

So fuck it up and come back again like a phoenix.

 

 

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5 ways to face the shits in your life

 

Yes, Shit does happen in life. I have in one right now and I can say it sort of allow me to slow my life right now and think about all the nooks and crannies which I have been through this recent years.

Truth is I wasn’t growing in the way I want in life and I have been questioning the universe and god if this is the right path for me. Am I on the right path? Am I in the right way? Lost? I thought I wasn’t but the truth is I have been lost this 2 years plus. All the way up till now. It has finally snowballed into a big ball of shit right now.

Perhaps something needs to end in order for Universe to sort some backend stuff in their office. For now, I finally found my peace, which has been lost for almost 2 years. So, I really want to share my techniques with you guys if you are in the same situation as me right now.

  1. Question yourself

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Go to a place you like and ask. Preferably somewhere with no people. Go deep into your heart and ask yourself wtf u want in life. Answer your own questions. Nobody can answer for you. You need to figure out yourself and be super honest about your own truth. Stop lying. Stop finding excuses. When you finally found the answer to your question. Trust me, a kind of acceptance will be settled into your chaotic heart and mind.

2. Manifest about what you want and trust in the Universe

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Go ahead. Try it. It’s free. It’s not a self-help book for you to throw your money into it. I ain going to tell you how to do. Go to youtube and search for it. I have tried it over and over in my life cause it really works. I have seen miracles manifesting in my life through using the lesson from Law of Universe. Every time shit happens, always believe you are meant to be put in that spot for greater things to come into your life. Yes, it might be too dark to see it at the moment but trust in it.

3. Give thanks to everything in your life

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The moment when these words hit you in the eyes, you are able to see and understand what am I typing and trying to convey to you. This is a gift of education. Be grateful about it. The moment you switch on your laptop with a click or a button on your phone, you have the equipment to be able to communicate with your friends, relatives and partner. Be grateful that you are born in the right era to enjoy the technologies you are having right now. Give thanks and feel your feeling lifted up for that moment.

4. Download a playlist of soothing songs and motivational podcasts

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It’s okay to feel shitty even after doing the first 3 tips as mentioned. So make a playlist of soothing songs to fade yourself into it or listen to motivational podcasts from people such as Gary Vee, Tim Ferriss and Simon Sinek. These guys are fabulous and able to sorta help you feel a bit better in this shitty world. One of my favourites is this. Surround yourself with positivity is the first step to everything. Trust me. You will feel a lot better after listening to them.

5. Subscribe to motivational video on Youtube 

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I never did in the past. So I started to subscribe to videos which gave me a glimpse of hope in the current shit I am in right now. It helps a lot. Anytime the creator created a new video, it’s like another pill for my soul and a trigger for me to try again one more time.

There is this saying from Haruki Murakami.

“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”

Let’s face the rainbow at the end of the storm together.

Why am I ditching Daniel Wellington Watch?

 

Let me say something right here.

I was a big fan of the brand and was attracted to its clean simplicity design when it was first launched in  2011. So I bought it asap once I graduated 3 years ago from my University.

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This is the watch that I bought. A solid beautiful Sheffield design.

Fast forward 2.5 years later, the brand was getting under my nerve. They are too much counterfeit products in the market and they looked and felt almost the same as the real one.

DW has changed from a lifestyle brand to a sales oriented management. It’s good to be sales driven. But it is actually diluting its own brand by not having a strong stance on its product. Anyone can sell. It became a pasam malam brand.

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A lot of watch retailers are carrying DW watches in their shop with at a price of $200 plus. Qoo10 Singapore (E-commerce website) is selling it for SG49.99 for a piece. Apparently, China is crushing DW quite badly with its warehouse direct sales and nobody in DW actually gives a damn. So, why would I buy a simple design dress watch that is around $200 plus? I can get it for $50 a piece. Nope, I will choose to back out from this brand.

This time round, it was Solvil Et Titus which caught my eyes.

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  • – 3-hand automatic movement
  • – Stainless steel case with dark brown oily Leather strap
  • – Blue sunray dial with applied silver color index
  • – Skeleton design at 6 o’clock
  • – Hardened convex crystal
  • – 30M water resistant

I was captured by the design at first before settling down to my first Automatic watch.

Let me end this with a beautiful paragraph I saw on Watch U Seek Forum.

I never understood the allure of mechanical watches. They are so expensive, antiquated, and unnecessary. But they tick. They have a heartbeat. They have weight. My life is spent in front of a computer screen handheld or desktop and the beauty of a handcrafted machine on my wrist is a perfect counterbalance.

~boulderlaw

 

Growing old is a pain in the ass for Singaporean “Working class” Elderly

Let’s start by going all the way back to the 60s.

For this post, I will use two 60 years old males as an example of the income gap in Singapore and how it has spiraled down to our current situation.

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I will use Mr Wooden Spoon and Mr Silver Spoon as an example right here.

Let’s talk about Mr Wooden spoon first. His dad was a blue-collar worker in the 60s, which was enough to feed a family of 6-8 people.

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Example of a Factory Worker in a Paper Factory

To Wooden’s dad, it’s more than enough if his children has clothes to wear, food to eat and a school to attend. When Wooden reached 7 years old, his dad enrolled him into a Chinese-stream school.

In education, for example, the government did not attempt to regulate and support the number of Chinese schools and, at the same time, encourage the growth of English-stream schools. The Chinese-educated became an under-privileged group; they had no opportunities for tertiary education nor could they hope to be employed in the civil service.

~The Development of Education in Singapore Since 1965

 

There was the first split in between the “Elite” class and the “working” class of Singapore.

Example of a Chinese-Stream School in the 60s as shown below.

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Let’s talk about Mr Silver Spoon. His dad was a humble lawyer who was able to afford a good house for his Family. He was one of the minority in his era to understand the importance of Education and started to save up a sum of Money for his Son University’s fees.

Example of a lawyer’s job in the 60s.

Much of my litigation work in Singapore then was concerned with moneylenders’ actions, property disputes (especially rent-controlled disputes) and debt collection. We were paid adequately but not handsomely and, in my case, I was given a fixed bonus of one month every year. However, the cost of living was very low, and a bit of frugality would allow a young lawyer to buy even a small house in the best district in Singapore.

~Reflections of a Former Practitioner

When Silver reached 7 years old, his dad enrolled him into a English-stream school.

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Trafalgar English School

When Mr Wooden reached 16 years old, he decided to drop out of school to work instead as tertiary education need a good command of English to enroll in. Mr Silver on the other hand has successfully attained a place in National Junior College, the first specialized co-educational government school established in independent Singapore for top pre-university students.

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There is the second split of differences for Singapore. One has succumbed to the fate of “working class” and the other was destined to climb even further up onto the “elite” class ladder.

Fast forward to a few years later, Mr Wooden is a technician who lived from paycheck to paycheck while Mr Silver is a lawyer who understood the theory of Investment.

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Right now, both men are in their 60s. Mr Silver is able to retire comfortably in a few years time while Mr Wooden has his financial stress of not having enough to live a basic minimal life and might need to work till to his 80s.

Hopefully Singapore government will do something about this impending issue. Else I will be planning my own retirement at Malaysia with my partner.

A response to Ms Melinda on gay kissing in Singapore.

To be honest, I am not a big fan of PDA.

Be it heterosexual or homosexual, it’s just simply awkward to see 2 tongues waging in front of me as shown below.

I am not a big fan of Stomp by the way. That’s what google smacked into my face when I typed “Kissing in MRT”.

What you can do is to just look elsewhere or try to squeeze into another place where you could not see saliva drooling everywhere on the floor.

I respect everyone’s rights, but this is Simply Disgusting in a public space. ~Melinda

At least, we are on the same page right here. Ms Melinda. =)

What if my children saw this and asked “Mummy, why are the two men kissing?” Would I have to answer “It’s the same as normal love and marriage. The only difference is that one man opens his buttocks for the other man to put his private part inside but in the end, no babies come out. They only get AIDS”?!

~Melinda

I mean I will ask if I am a kid. I did ask my Mum when I was a 7 years old kid. That memory is still vivid in my brain, especially that school girl sitting on a man’s lap in a MRT. My mum just asked me to shut up! It’s like what all Asian parents do anyway. You can just tell your kid to shut up! No need to explain too much. They will understand when the time is right. That’s how I grow up too.

But the way of your reasoning to your kid was extremely repulsive. Let me put it in this way.

7 years old Kid,” Mummy! Why are the man and woman kissing over there?”

You,”It’s normal. That’s how a man and woman make love. The man sticks his penis into the woman’s vagina. In the end, baby drop out from there.”

I will be horrified if I am that 7 years old kid. It’s too much explanation and information of the human sexual organs. I think we can use a better method to explain the meaning of PDA instead of trying to sex up an explanation to a kid. Right? Woman?

Most people in SG already know they exist but would prefer that they just go back inside the closet and stop seeking attention.

~Melinda

There you go again. We should ask all the people in the train to stop kissing cause they are all seeking attention from the public. That I agreed with you. We should follow Ms Josephine Teo’s advise to kiss and have sex in a small space. Closet is a perfect place to fuck each other brain out. =D

Some of them are not contented with Pink Dot and intimacy in private. Instead, they want to flaunt their gayness in public and ‘confront’ normal heterosexual couples until they accept them as normal and see them as equally ‘married’.

~Melinda

May I know what do you mean by confront? For what I know, the definition of confront is to “come face to face with (someone) with hostile or argumentative intent”. Let me tell you, it’s always the heterosexual people “confronting” the homosexual people instead. Have you been reading news recently?

There you see. A lot of people are on your side. No worries, you can join them and wave the cards high into the air. =)

For many of us, life is not just about fulfilling sexual fetishes that are falsely attributed to genetics.

~ Melinda

Let’s just put it in this way. What if this world you are living in is not a heterosexual society by nature? Someone is asking you to enjoy pussy instead of a proper dick in your vagina? How would you feel? Having a dick sticking into your vagina feel more right than a finger right? You will definitely agree with me on that. It’s the same for the gay community.  Having the same sexual organs with their partner feel more comfortable for them. It’s not just a sexual fetish. A human has a right to choose what go in and what come out of their private part. Nobody got a right to stop you or force you to try something you doesn’t feel comfortable with your own body. Do you understand?

I hope you do.

5 Reasons on why I bought the Panasonic Lumix TZ70.

I am not going to explain all the specs and technical stuffs over here.

If you interested to know, find out more from Lumix TZ70 site.

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  1. It’s within my Budget

I was stuck for a week thinking should I get a $1k mirrorless camera or a $400 plus point & Shoot camera. But I was thinking since it’s my first compact camera for the first time like ever, I decided to opt for a budget friendly camera. My Lumix TZ70 costs around $400 plus. Totally within my Budget.

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2. I am a huge fan of Leica

The camera has a Leica DC VARIO ELMAR 30x zoom lens with a focal length range of 4.3-129mm, which gives a 35mm equivalent range of 24-720mm and an aperture range of f/3.3-6.4 (wide-tele).Yes, this is a specification of the camera. But this is an amazing one.

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3. It can really zoom

Yes, It has the ability to zoom with its 30x range. Panasonic has too incorporated its own advanced Hybrid OIS+ (Optical Image Stabilizer Plus) five-axis system, which promises to keep this kind of blur to a minimum and is available for both stills and video. I was sitting a few tables away from this aunty above and it has the ability to capture the scene in a split second too. A great camera for street photography for me. =)

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I know there will be professional and camera experts bombarding me that they are other better cameras around which can able to zoom down into the pores of the chocolate chips on the donut. But to me, this really works for me. It offers a Macro setting that allows you to focus on a subject that is 3cms away from the camera when the lens is set to wide-angle.

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Phone camera is great. But somehow, a real solid camera is always better than your own phone. Not trying to a snob here. I have seen too much pictures on Instagram and Facebook to see that there is really a major difference between both. Of course, capturing a moment with a phone is definitely much more convenient than a camera. But Lumix TZ70 has managed to capture my heart with its fast shutter and image stabilizer. Therefore, it’s one of my daily carry out items in my bag.

That’s all! Folks!

 

 

Feeling stuck in your job?

Cause that’s exactly what I am feeling right now. When you have a hand-off Boss, who has a traditional mindset towards the Company management. There is nothing much you can do. But it’s definitely much better to stay for a year than to leave in within a few months. Yes, it’s suck. But it allowed me to pay my monthly bills and loans.

So I decided to write this post as a reminder to myself in the rest of the 5 months that I have left.

  1. Learn new skills 

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Yes. Instead of feeling fuck up and fed up about your life. Try to read articles on the internet like Medium and  keep yourself updated in the current news. For me, I have recently pick up Fish-keeping hobby and learn how to play Squash for this year. So, it’s a pretty good year for me.  Not that sucky.

2. Do a mini weekend escape to other country 

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Yes. It’s important to save. It’s even important to see the world when you are in your 20s. Plus, mini weekend escapes are able to let you escape your current situation for a moment. I have already took a mini trip to KL and Genting for this year with my gf. Heading soon to Japan at November. At least that is a major distraction for me at the moment.

What’s yours?

3. Start a project 

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Yes. Find something meaningful to do. I did. Like starting this WordPress site. Find something that you have been putting off for years. I mean if you cannot change the situation of your career, at least there is something for you to work on at the moment. Go and start a project. It can be anything like to be able to converse in Cantonese within a year or do a smiling video for each day like those famous Youtubers. Anything? Up for you to find out what really drive you on.

4. Download a Countdown app

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I love Countdown Apps. They are a great reminder of amazing things are coming soon and I will always feel a sense of satisfaction after looking at it.

For my current lackadaisical situation, I choose to download Zui Days for its high resolution images at the back of the ticking numbers. It serves as a reminder of how a year can pass by that quickly. Nothing is permanent, neither is my trouble.

5. Scroll through the online Job Portals once in a while

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It’s always great to scroll through the online Job Portals once in a while to remind yourself of the number of amazing jobs that you can get to do once you are out of your current Pigeon-hole. At the same time, you are able to update yourself with what is the current job industry at the moment. So, I am window shopping right now.

6. Change your perspective

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Yes, it’s sucks. Nothing is going your way. You tried so hard and it is not really working. Life is about sucking it up and acting like it doesn’t matter. Yes, we need to suck it up at time. I have agreed to that T&C of life. But I will not allow myself to feel miserable  everyday. That isn’t healthy.

I have learnt how to unloose myself and let myself be zen in my current situation.